Not all boundary violators use bully tactics to break your boundaries. These are obvious perpetrators.
Some use a softer approach, using passivity or submission to violate your boundaries. "I hope you don't mind that I use your email address other than what you specified." DON'T BE FOOLED BY THIS BOUNDARY VIOLATOR. The victim and the perpetrator are on the same vibrational frequency and they can switch positions in a second. I find people who fear rejection tend to put themselves into positions of being easily rejected, and this is either part of their learning or part of being dysfunctional. The guy who sent me the love poetry (like gazillions of poems) the other day used this tactic. People will sneak in under your boundaries but the VERY FACT that they don't honour your free will means they are part of the "power over others" system. That very fact alone. A boundary violator is a boundary violator. Whether they to to sneak under your boundaries or blast through them, manipulate you with guilt or shame, it doesn't matter. They are trying to gain power over you to foist their agenda onto you. If their agenda were to give me a million dollars, they would have it returned to them. I DO NOT deal with boundary violators. Anyone who violates your boundaries has the potential to be very abusive. Some aren't. But some are. And violating your boundaries is only the first red flag you should be paying attention to. A guy sent me an email full of love poetry the other day. He'd used the form on my website for something other than what I'd specified it was to be used for, so I binned his email and set my account to trash any other email he should try to send me. I DON'T DEAL WITH BOUNDARY VIOLATORS. I've known too many in my past and I've learned my lesson.
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorI have lived this nightmare and have overcome being a victim. Archives
March 2020
Categories
All
|