I've been showing my apartment for my landlord because he has only a part time super to do it. I think trusting the tenants not to spill the beans on why they're moving is like playing with fire, but he's that dysfunctional that he'd do that.
So I said I'd do it for the greater good. However the problem with the greater good is that on this planet there are advantage takers - the "give 'em an inch and they'll take a mile" club. I could see my landlord, if the apartment isn't rented, asking me to continue to go over there and show it. But that's where I"m drawing the line - I'll show it as long as I"m in it. When I move it won't be inconvenient to show it but the fact is I'll be sitting there waiting for people like I am now. Even that is difficult for someone with no memory to speak of. The other reason is it's not my job to do that. I could see this becoming a real habit for him to ask because he is manipulative, very manipulative and manipulative people have boundary issues. Well, I don't. I have to ask myself how interested am I in becoming involved with someone who's that manipulative (the answer is I'm not) and getting involved in his business (I'm not) also doing for him what he should be doing for himself (I'm not). This is a business and if he wants to make the money, I figure he should do the work. I'll be rethinking this to see if I'm running afoul of universal law on this and I'll see where I come up. Clear boundaries make sure you don't get taken advantage of. The question is "How much are you willing to do for someone else?"
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