Triangle conversations. So what are they and why did I name them that?
I went into the pet store yesterday and as I cashed out, the owner started to comment on all the heavy Christmas shopping traffic. I commented that I didn't think it was so bad, but I was only coming here and doing nothing else. He insisted the traffic was awful. I didn't reply and just carried on being cheerful. People who are on the triangle can't do anything else but be on the triangle. That's where their heads are. It doesn't matter what's going on for them - it's always bad. I should think as a store owner, he should appreciate the Christmas traffic because his sales would increase, but no, not this guy. Beware of people who small talk triangle speak. Resist every negative thing they say and find reasons to disagree with them. If you're already in a good frame of mind, don't let them rain on your parade. They wonder why depression is so commonplace. I don't. They're on the triangle.
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I just moved into another apartment, next door to my old one, run by the same landlord/superintendent team
They tend to have a WYSIWYG approach to apartments: trying to get repairs done while you're actually paying the rent has proven difficult in the past. I have a list of things that the super even agrees need to be done in the apartment, not the least of which is changing the door lock to a dead bolt. He bought the dead bolt and it's sitting there, waiting to be installed. Last week he painted my old apartment to prepare for the new tenant. This week, I figure he's free. So I let him know he could come over to do work today. Not only has he not come over, he hasn't gotten back to me either. I may have to put on my coat and boots and walk over to his apartment and ask him what's going on. I need this stuff done. Right now my cutlery is locked into the drawer because for some reason, it won't open. When he was here last, he commented that the water isn't very warm and I said, "Yes, I've been taking baths by boiling water in a pot!" Wrong answer. I should've said. "You're right. While you're here can you go turn it up for me." My answer said I'm willing to put up with it, I've even found a stop gap solution. So here's the plan. I'm going to go over there and ask him when he plans on coming to do the work. If he doesn't bother to show up, I will let the landlord know that next month's rent payment will be paid out to a contractor who will be doing all these repairs for me. Some people you have to push otherwise you'll never get anything out of them. Our language is written from the standpoint of a powerless victim.
We say "Life happens to you." It doesn't. Life actually happens FOR you - it's for your benefit, it's not something external that happens - you're not a passive object in your own life. More accurately, life happens BY you. It is created BY you; it doesn't randomly occur from without. The other thing people say is "You made me." Nobody makes you do anything unless under duress, threat of physical harm or blackmail. You made me angry is b.s. Nobody makes you angry - you make yourself angry. It's more accurate to say, "I made myself upset over what he said." When we complain about something we say, "This sucks!" not realizing that we co-created it. When we create something that sucks, we have to ask ourselves what beliefs we hold that would create that situation, then change them. We have all the power we allow ourselves, nothing more. 1. Someone who thinks every comment you make in response to theirs is an argument.
2. Someone who thinks everything you say to them is a request for their approval. These are control freaks and will put you back into the victim role so fast it'll make your head spin - unless you're aware and are assertive with them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4820Lej-N8o
7 signs someone is attempting to manipulate you. being grateful for everything, replacing impatience with patience
Yeah, a not so hypothetical situation. You're in the express line at the grocery store. There are 6 people in front of you and NONE, not a one, has only 16 items in their baskets. You're counting the items, getting more and more steamed up and then you hear the word, “Patience....” in your mind's ear. Yes, patience. I could be patient, couldn't I? You take deep breaths, start to look out the window, not in the other people's baskets. You feel your annoyance leaving you. You think, “Creator, thank you for providing this opportunity to me to show me what it's like to be more like you are, the way you are with me. You're very patient with me and forgive all I do wrong. Thank you.” You're feeling a bit better. Then a man comes up behind you. He's juggling items that he clearly grabbed in a hurry and checking his watch. Clearly he's in a hurry. Just as it's your turn to cash out, you let him go ahead of you. Your ego is screaming, “Why?!” Again, you say to yourself, “Thank you Creator for providing this opportunity for me to be like you. To be giving to others and considerate of their needs. Just like you are with me.” Get my point, eh? Why be patient and considerate of others? Because you win too! You feel better. You are also stepping into behaviours of your divine self, not your ego. You're not walking out of there a grouch because things didn't happen in your time. Do we do this perfectly? No. Probably not. I don't. But I keep working on it. Impatience and annoyance are fear-based behaviours. Get over fear. Stop creating situations for yourself to keep on having to learn from. Feeling sorry for yourself
I honestly believe that self-pity, complaining about one's misfortunes, feeling sorry for oneself, is the most corrosive state of the human mind. It, to me, is the absolute epitome of backwards thinking that there is. I have wallowed in self pity for much of my life. I still do it on occasion - get angry at what I feel life has handed me. The fact is, life hasn't handed me anything - I've created it. Self-pity is then the abdication of all responsibility to oneself, either physical, emotional, mental or etheric. I honestly am working on looking at moments of pain in my life, like painful ascension symptoms, as short term pain. Yes life on earth can be painful. This pain, BTW that we're feeling, are blocks being removed from the body - pain blocks that we installed in earlier years of our lives, when we didn't know what we were doing. I feel that self pity begets self pity. When you feel sorry for yourself, life says, "As you wish," as Gilliland says, and hands you more to feel sorry for yourself over. Short term pain, long term gain. I've stopped with the jokes about babies being pissed off because they're back on earth again, and I'm trying to feel happy about having to spend another 17 more years here. It was my ignorance of how life works that led to my being dissatisfied with it. Had I known, I would've dealt with it differently. One big change I need to embrace is my ego's insistence that my life suit me, when in fact it's here to suit my higher purpose which is about others. Well, like they say, it's never too late. So start now! |
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