Our language is written from the standpoint of a powerless victim.
We say "Life happens to you." It doesn't. Life actually happens FOR you - it's for your benefit, it's not something external that happens - you're not a passive object in your own life. More accurately, life happens BY you. It is created BY you; it doesn't randomly occur from without. The other thing people say is "You made me." Nobody makes you do anything unless under duress, threat of physical harm or blackmail. You made me angry is b.s. Nobody makes you angry - you make yourself angry. It's more accurate to say, "I made myself upset over what he said." When we complain about something we say, "This sucks!" not realizing that we co-created it. When we create something that sucks, we have to ask ourselves what beliefs we hold that would create that situation, then change them. We have all the power we allow ourselves, nothing more.
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