Unaware reaction to others: Listen to their problems, try to help them with their problems (perhaps not realizing that they are chronic and their problems define them as victims and that they are energy vampires and do no inner work.)
Aware reaction: Ask yourself how do you feel hearing these ultra personal details with someone you just met. Ask yourself how you feel in conversation with this person - is this something you enjoy? Understanding that people usually put their best face on when meeting new people, ask yourself why is this person telling you all these personal details and complaining so much only the third time you've ever spoken to them. Ask yourself "Do I want to still be doing this in 10 years?" because you're going to be if you allow it. People show you where their boundaries are right off the bat. Listen to the way they complain about their interaction with others to understand how they plan on interacting with you. Look at their inability to understand their relationships because they don't do their inner work, and then ask yourself do you want to be caught up in the same chaos they've ensnared others with? Is this what you want? Because it's what you're going to get. How dominating are they? How submissive are they? Are they going to try to control you or are they going to try to create a dependency and never make a move without your say-so? How come they're telling a complete stranger these personal details? Do you feel comfortable with that? Then ask yourself, "What is this showing me about myself? How did I co-create this? What purpose is this serving in my life and how can I learn from it? What is it I need to know?
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