That's just a true statement. There's really no explanation needed, is there?
Complaining to someone chronically, listening to someone complain for hours on end, like I did yesterday, is verbally abusing them. Everyone has problems now and then, but creating relationships based on your need to complain to them is just toxic. People do it. I have a person who's interested in friendship who I'm about to give the heave-ho because this is what she did yesterday. I will tell her and I will tell her why. People think it's loving to listen to others' problems. It's not. It's abusive towards others to complain chronically. I use the time to understand how they plan on treating me in future and making an assessment of whether I want to be their friend or not. What about the listener? What do they get back from you? Complaining - holding the attention of another person for hours on end - is an attempt by an energy vampire to gain back the energy they're missing by not doing their inner work. Vampires have poor soul connection, and as a result, they vampire energy by using tactics like complaining for hours. The vampire will always focus outwards, never inwards. They know there is no energy there. So they hunt by either reeling in the unaware, or trying to change people in relationships to suit themselves. They manipulate, they use guilt to make you feel sorry for them, and they give nothing back for everything they have stolen from you. They are energy thieves. And believe me, there are many of them in this world.
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Unaware reaction to others: Listen to their problems, try to help them with their problems (perhaps not realizing that they are chronic and their problems define them as victims and that they are energy vampires and do no inner work.)
Aware reaction: Ask yourself how do you feel hearing these ultra personal details with someone you just met. Ask yourself how you feel in conversation with this person - is this something you enjoy? Understanding that people usually put their best face on when meeting new people, ask yourself why is this person telling you all these personal details and complaining so much only the third time you've ever spoken to them. Ask yourself "Do I want to still be doing this in 10 years?" because you're going to be if you allow it. People show you where their boundaries are right off the bat. Listen to the way they complain about their interaction with others to understand how they plan on interacting with you. Look at their inability to understand their relationships because they don't do their inner work, and then ask yourself do you want to be caught up in the same chaos they've ensnared others with? Is this what you want? Because it's what you're going to get. How dominating are they? How submissive are they? Are they going to try to control you or are they going to try to create a dependency and never make a move without your say-so? How come they're telling a complete stranger these personal details? Do you feel comfortable with that? Then ask yourself, "What is this showing me about myself? How did I co-create this? What purpose is this serving in my life and how can I learn from it? What is it I need to know? |
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