I had a conversation with a guy recently who did this and I was reminded.
People who say the word "sorry" for any reason at all, repetitively, time and time again, are victims. They have most likely taken responsibility for other people's "stuff" throughout their lifetime, and have used saying "sorry" as a way of assuaging the anger of the perpetrator they dealt with repetitively. Fact is, it means nothing other than they think of themself as a victim and they're playing a role of being submissive to others. When it all comes out in the wash, will they be sorry for whatever it was they apologized for? No. Victims are often extremely resentful of others who put them down. And rightly so. Understanding what made you so angry at others ultimately leads to your freedom as you go back through your life and try to put the past to rest. When you become captain of your own ship, self empowered and self loving, you will have little need to take care of others' feelings by saying "sorry" all the time. You will say what you need to and if others don't like it, they'll have to own it themselves instead of projecting their part of themselves onto you. Yes, projection is involved here when people react negatively to what you say: they don't want to see something about themselves, and you just reminded them of what that is. You stop caretaking others' feelings and start speaking your truth. You realize this might not make you popular but you sleep better at night. When you die, you leave all behind you on earth and it's yourself you need to make peace with most importantly. Some people will never forgive you for anything you have said or done, and that's on them. Has nothing to do with you.
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