You have the right to say "no" without explaining yourself. This means you don't have to come up with "a good reason why" you're saying no.
Controlling people will put you on the defensive by interrogating you into giving them a good reason why you're saying "no". Fact is, they're doing it so they can break down your resistance and then manipulate you into doing what you don't want. These manipulations can often include assaults on your character, bringing up things they did for you when you needed them (sometimes exaggerated and drawn out to justify their current need now. For example if they've only done one thing for you ever, they'll keep repeating that one thing and exaggerating its importance to you.) I always say arguing in futile and this would bear that up. Arguing is a game of dominance. You have the right to assert yourself, to repeat the word "no" with no explanation and you also have the right to walk away.
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